I came across this quote today, and I couldn't agree more. This is the key to getting through the tough times. When you're broke, or the kid's are young and require so much time and attention, or you're just bored- you need to remember this! If you ask anyone who's been married 50 years, they will tell you that they love each other more than they did when they were married. A successful marriage is never stagnant. It's a living, breathing organism and it has to be going somewhere. You can let yourselves be drawn apart, or you can put the work into coming together again. "Falling in love" is not that fluttery feeling you get when things are brand new and you're obsessed with your new love interest. That's a byproduct of a physical and chemical reaction (a fun one, but not something to base an entire life together on). If you are searching for that "new" feeling again, you're going to be disappointed. That's exactly what leads to affairs and broken hearts and marriages. In the context of marriage, "falling in love" is that choice to always put the other's needs above your own. To make the effort to flirt and play together. To CHOOSE to love, even when it hurts. To honor and respect one another. To value the time you have put into your marriage and life together. And the wonderful byproduct of these choices is that renewing of your love over and over again. That is what leads to a successful marriage.
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